Wednesday, January 23, 2013

How to Get More Involved in Your Community


Look around you…then ask yourself, ‘Who needs my help today?’ That could very likely be step one in getting involved in your community. Really!

Keep in mind that many organizations and non-profits rely solely on donations and volunteers to survive. You may not think that you alone can make a difference, but think again!

It’s easy to immerse ourselves in our own little world, and our own problems and concerns. We need to be mindful of our families and their wellbeing. But, look around and see who might need some assistance in your community. By giving of oneself with our talents and time, it’s amazing what you can accomplish, and how you can help others. By determining where your interests or talents lie, you could be a valuable asset as a volunteer!

Some people get involved in their community because they have children. For example, they may coach their son or daughter’s soccer team. Yet others find themselves getting involved in a cause, perhaps borne from an interest, or even an illness or accident of a loved one or themselves…still others develop a passion they may have wanted to pursue, and in doing so, they may be helping others.

You may want to exercise your creativity through the arts, non-profit organizations, or even a synagogue, church, or temple.  Several worthy organizations that I have had personal experience with are my church and Fresh Start Women’s Foundation. I serve on the Courtesy team at my church, and also participate (as an actor) in the monthly Family Experience, or FX Live presentation. Places of worship often rely heavily on the contributions of the time and talent of members.  I have met some amazing people there, and feel that in some small way I am making a difference. Getting involved in missions trips, or contributing financially so that others may take the trip are easy ways to get involved.  I have also served as a class facilitator at a women’s organization, and have helped outfit women in career clothing in preparation for an interview or a new job. These rewarding experiences have allowed me to not only meet important and influential people, but to assist those who I am there to serve.

Perhaps you have always had a keen interest in politics. Why not volunteer for your party or candidate’s campaign? In a similar way, giving of your time or resources to a civic cause can be more far reaching than you may think.

Most people think that helping out at a shelter or food bank during the holidays is a great way to get involved, and while it certainly is, do keep in mind that help is needed 365 days per year. You could organize a group of friends to volunteer on a bi-monthly basis, or hand out water bottles during the summer at the local food bank. Habitat for Humanity always accepts assistance, whether you’re a semi-professional painter, or have never even used a hammer. There are always ways to get involved!

If you have an interest in acting or serving behind the scenes, perhaps getting involved in your local community theatre is an option. I have a friend that volunteers as an usher at one of the theatres in our town, and the caveat is that it allows him to see all the plays!

Do you enjoy pets, but are unable to have one? Consider donating your time at a pet shelter. Organizations such as ‘Home Fur Good’ will train volunteers to act as dog handlers and adoption counselors. Shelters need people to walk dogs and clean pets’ quarters.

Visiting a retirement community or the ward of a children’s hospital is a great way to spend your time. One look at a grateful child will melt your heart, and make you realize how important a few moments of your time is to them. Reading to elderly patients in a group home may bring joy to the residents. You might also consider serving as a volunteer at your local hospital at the information desk or gift shop.

Big Brothers/Big Sisters is another important and worthy organization, as is the Boys and Girls Club. There are many diverse opportunities within those organizations that serve children.

Most cities host large events, and will advertise for help and train volunteers, and it’s a great way to meet like-minded people who share your passions.

Finally, there are those who are unable to physically serve others, but who give of their financial resources. I know a very dear woman who cannot idly watch the children in third world countries drink polluted ‘drinking’ water that animals are bathing in simultaneously. She gives from her heart, has been instrumental in the building of several water wells, and in turn, is getting involved in a global effort.

So, you see, getting involved is much more than donating a few spare hours on a Saturday—you may be changing lives unaware.
 
Diane McLelland has been called a ‘fashionista’ from a young age, acquiring her love of a fashion after enrolling in Sears Charm School as a young girl. After earning her degree in Fashion Merchandising and Business, she gained experience by appearing in movies, commercials, and magazine layouts in the Phoenix area, and worked as a flight attendant for over 15 years. Diane considers herself to be a personal shopper as she shops for family and friends whenever possible. She has written for a travel publication and numerous newsletters and currently works as a Career Services Advisor, assisting students find viable work in their chosen fields. She has two grown sons, and along with dog Cooper and ‘his’ two cats, resides in the Valley of the Sun - Phoenix AZ.

 

 

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

The Benefits of Negative Thinking


No doubt you have heard how dangerous negative thinking is. Negative thinking has been blamed for all kinds of illnesses, like depression, anxiety, cancer and diabetes. Bad thoughts are also responsible for many ruined relationships and cases of drug abuse. But if negative thinking is so bad, why do we all practice it? Why are we all so good at it?

Of the approximately 60,000 thoughts we have each day, how many would you consider negative? If you are like most people, negative thinking has become so commonplace in our minds that we hardly notice it.

One advantage of thinking in ‘worst case scenarios,’ such as expecting to fail, to be betrayed, or to be let down, is that you have a built-in emotional insurance policy. I hear many people say, “When I expect the worst, then I won’t be disappointed when things go wrong.”

Another advantage is that you increase your odds of being right. Let’s face it -- it is much easier to predict the worst than it is to predict the best, so chances are you will be correct!

Thinking negatively has another advantage. It gives us the best excuse for not trying or for not working hard at something. Positive outcomes are usually the result of effort and hopeful thinking; if we don’t want to put forth the effort, saying things like, “Why should I try? I am just going to fail anyway,” become a great excuse.

Another form of negative thinking is hoping that good things will not happen to others we know. This keeps you from having to congratulate others on their successes or the good things that happen to them that don’t happen for you. This form of negative thinking is a veiled form of self-comparison. Because we feel bad about ourselves or jealous when good things happen to others and not to us, it is easier to just hope that the good things don’t happen to them.
If these benefits appeal to you, then go on thinking negative thoughts and hoping for the worst. If you would rather rise above the negativity and learn to create positive emotions that can lead to happiness, here are ten suggestions to help you do just that:

1.       Focus on shades of grey: Life is rarely all this or all that. Life is rarely all negative or all positive, all right or all wrong. Start to think in shades of grey by acknowledging that your experiences most often have a positive aspect, even though there are negative aspects.

2.       Spread honey, not lard: If something bad happens, don’t over-generalize it and let it spread to other areas of your life. If you fail a test, it doesn’t mean you are dumb or that you are a complete failure; it means you need to try harder at that one thing.

3.       Setbacks are temporary: Just because you are feeling down, depressed or anxious remember that it will pass. Don’t let one setback make you think your life is in ruins. 

4.       Stick with the facts: We all have to deal with unknowns, such as why someone has not called us back, or why we didn’t get credit for something we did, or why we didn’t get a job or a promotion. Don’t let not knowing turn into self-blame and self-indictment. Just stick with the facts.

5.       Give yourself more credit: Too often we make excuses for good things that happen by saying things like, “It was just luck,” or “They only did that because they had to.” Stop taking the blame and give yourself more credit for the good that happens in your life.

6.       Accept what is: We often feel negativity in the form of what we should have done, could have done, or could do. When you are stuck in the ‘should haves,’ you are thinking outside of what really is. Stick with what is, not what should have been, and it can reduce your negative emotions.

7.       Consider best-case scenario: Most worst-case scenarios are not 100% certain. That leaves room for a best-case scenario. Balance every worst case scenario with a best case scenario. It may not always happen, but neither one is 100% certain. Give the best-case scenario a chance.

8.       Be grateful: It is easy to look around and see what you don’t have. It is just as easy to look around and see all that you do have. Focusing on what you do have helps you counter the feeling that life is not fair and will cancel out negative thinking.

9.       Give it away: Believe it or not, when you feel down, depressed or that life has just thrown you a curve, one way to get over it quickly is to do something nice for someone. It doesn’t have to be grand or expensive; the smallest and more personal things are often most appreciated and sure to give your feelings a positive lift.

10.   Trust in the law of averages: If you are experiencing some hard luck, take confidence in the fact that your luck will change. With a positive attitude you will start to see better possibilities and more positive outcomes.

 

Kirk Wilkinson is the Founder and President of The Happiness Factor, a best-selling author, two-time cancer survivor, speaker and life coach. The Happiness and Factor and the Fresh Start Women 's Foundation have partnered to bring you a powerful and uplifting on-line coaching program. Click here to learn more.

Thursday, January 17, 2013

Dress for the Job you Want: Style Inspiration from Successful Women


Reposted from The Daily Muse
Your work wardrobe says a lot about who you are—and even more about where you’re headed. So, whether you aspire to be a CEO, your city’s lead newscaster, or the next First Lady (or Ms. President!), why not get some style inspiration from the leading ladies in your field?
 

We’ve rounded up a few of our favorite powerful women who do their jobs looking beyond fabulous. From Anna Wintour to Marissa Mayer, take note of their style successes before heading to the office, then learn how to get their looks for less. (Because, well, you don’t have their salaries—just yet.)
If you’re looking to be the next editor-in-chief of Vogue, take posh-and-prestige style cues from Anna Wintour. Make sure to master the runway looks of the season (before the season even starts), but also to invest in timeless classics like bold prints, luxe-looking furs, and chic neutrals. And don’t forget the staple sunglasses or statement jewelry—accessories are a must!

 



Marissa Mayer proves that being the President and CEO of Yahoo doesn’t mean you have to look nerdy or wear boring black all the time. Pick professional pieces like tea-length dresses and cardigans in coordinating colors, and add character to your power suit with a patterned silk scarf or collar necklace.
 
 



As both a public and political figure, First Lady Michelle Obama has mastered the art of keeping her look polished, accessible, and timeless. Nix the stifled suit and blouse combo and throw wrap dresses, fit and flare skirts, and long-sleeve shifts into the mix. And in a workplace filled with men, don’t be afraid to stand out in regal hues, classic prints, and feminine touches like belts, pearls, and ankle straps.
 


If you want to make it big in the fashion blogging world, you need to stick with a closet that’s punchy, trendy, and reflects your personal style to a T. Taylor Sterling of Sterling Style, and the founder and creative director of The Glitter Guide, knows a thing or two about staying true to her preppy, glittery-glam taste. Whether you’re mixing prints and layering like nobody’s business, piling on the arm candy, or trying out the season’s it shades, make sure that the look is totally you.
 


Whether sporting pastel dresses with pumps or bright blouses with hip-hugging skirts, Today’s Savannah Guthrie knows how to shine onscreen. Pops of color look gorgeous on camera, so make sure to adopt a range of hues into your newsroom wardrobe. If you want to add printed or flowy silhouettes to your onscreen attire, make sure they’re somewhat subdued and cinched to keep your viewers from getting a headache and you from appearing frumpy.
 


If you want to do it all like Miss Lauren Conrad—who owns three clothing lines, is a best selling author, has endless endorsement deals, and graces magazine covers monthly—you’re going to need to take some serious girl-next-door tips from this media mogul. Lauren’s go-to skinnies, flowy tees, and blazers keep her look polished for day, while at night she opts for feminine skirts and dresses. To appeal to the masses, keep your look low-key, crisp, and effortless.

Wednesday, January 16, 2013

The Benefits of Volunteering

People who volunteer are typically unanimous in touting the benefits. But volunteers are unpaid, contribute many hours of potentially free time to the organization, and sometimes need to provide their own supplies at personal cost. So what is the benefit?

 
All behavior is goal-driven. Everything we do has a payoff for us so even the most altruistic person receives a benefit for their efforts. Here are a few reasons why volunteering benefits the individual as much as it does the organization.

 
First, volunteering bolsters self-worth which is an important component of healthy self-esteem. When an individual has high self-worth they believe that everything they think, feel, and do matters and has a ripple effect in the world. They understand that they have a very unique contribution to make, one that no one else can accomplish in exactly the same way.  Volunteering reinforces this belief in self and the importance of every contribution.

 
Second, volunteering improves our relationships because it fosters compassion. Volunteering often places us in different situations, where we interact with different individuals, than we typically do. This allows us to discover that while people are very unique, they have much in common.  Volunteering exposes us to the diversity in the world which, in turn, builds respect for differences and improves our ability to relate to others.

 
Third, volunteering increases positive thinking because it promotes interconnectedness and interdependence. Negativity, despair, and depression build when we detach from social contact and focus too much on ourselves. Volunteering brings us out into the community where we direct our energies on improving humanity as a whole. We recognize that our small part matters and has an effect which radiates out into society.

 
These are only a few reasons why volunteering has such a positive impact on the individual. Try it yourself! Select an organization which interests you and explore opportunities to volunteer. You’ll see your life change for the better.


Ellen Diana is a psychologist, author of the Lucky Dreamer Tip Series, and co-author of the Charge up Your Life series of self-help books. She has 30 years’ experience working with children, adults, couples, and families in schools and in private practice in Scottsdale, Arizona. Helping women to evolve into their best selves through personal growth and self-awareness is a passion of hers. Ellen raised three successful children as a single parent and so has special interests in mentoring other women in transition and helping parents to raise resilient children. Contact Ellen at drdiana@ellendiana.com or through her website www.ellendiana.com


Tuesday, January 15, 2013

Life is Only Fair in Fairytales


All you have to do is look around to realize that in real-life Cinderella doesn’t get the slipper and the happy ending; her step-sister does. Perhaps you didn’t get the job, even though on paper you were undoubtedly the best candidate. Maybe your heart has been broken by another whose love-choice seemed clearly less desirable than you. I remember running to my mother as a kid complaining about things that were unfair; she always responded, “life is not meant to be fair.”

Well, it is true; from the outside looking in and considering the facts case by case, much of what happens to us just isn’t fair. And we could spend days, months and perhaps even years feeling cheated because life isn’t fair. We have all experienced the unfairness of life, and if we dwell on it or let it get the best of us, we can end up apathetic and cynical. Apathy is when you just don’t care anymore and stop trying. Cynicism is when you see the negative in everything. Apathy and cynicism make it difficult to break free from the cycle of unfairness that life is dealing you.

Fairness is certainly not found outside of ourselves; the fairness of life is created on the inside. If you find yourself in painful situations wishing life were fair, turn inward and realize that you have the power to increase your positive emotions, to feel satisfied, capable and even happy. Here are ten things you can do to improve your mood and overcome apathy and cynicism:

1.       Focus on the shades of grey: When we view life only in terms of black and white, we may have unrealistically high expectations of life. We will be disappointed when life isn’t fair. Start to think in shades of grey. Not everything is good or bad, right or wrong. Look for the grey area and you will find life is a bit fairer.

2.       Spread honey, not lard: Life is sometimes like hard toast; we need a little something to soften it up and make it easier to swallow. Would you rather soften it with lard in the form of more negativity or with honey in the form of looking at the brighter side? Spread honey, not lard, on the hard toast of life. 

3.       Remember that unfairness is temporary: When life isn’t fair we often judge our whole lives based on one event, thinking that our life is over. Setbacks are almost always temporary. In most cases we don’t want to do what we need to do; it is not that we can’t.

4.       Stick with the facts: When we don’t have all the facts, we can jump to wrong conclusions that cause us to think that life is not fair. We start to make assumptions like, “He didn’t call me because he is mad at me.” Or, “I must have blown the interview because they haven’t called me back.” Stop trying to read other people’s minds, and stick with what you do know.

5.       Give yourself more credit: Don’t blame yourself for bad things that happen, thinking everything is all your fault. Very few things are really all your fault. Get out of the habit of taking the blame and focus on your strengths, talents and positive contributions.

6.       Accept what is: Unfairness sometimes comes in the form of what we should have done, could have done, or could do. When you are stuck in the ‘should haves,’ you are thinking outside of what really is. Focus on what is, not what should have been. Start where you are and go forward, and your feelings that life is unfair will diminish.

7.       Consider best-case scenario: Most worst-case scenarios are not 100% certain to happen. That leaves room for a best-case scenario. Balance every negative “what if” with a best case “what if.” The best may not always happen, but it can; on the other hand, the worst-case scenario usually does not happen.

8.       Be grateful: It is easy to look around and see what you don’t have. It is just as easy to look around and see all that you do have. Focusing on what you do have helps you counter the feeling that life isn’t fair.

9.       Give it away: Believe it or not, when you feel life isn’t fair, one way to get over it quickly is to do something nice for someone. It doesn’t have to be grand or expensive; the smallest and more personal things are often more appreciated and sure to help you feel better.

10.   Trust in the law of averages: If you are experiencing some hard luck, take confidence in the fact that your luck will change. With a positive attitude you will start to see better possibilities and more positive outcomes.

 Kirk Wilkinson is the Founder and President of The Happiness Factor, a best-selling author, two-time cancer survivor, speaker and life coach. The Happiness and Factor and the Fresh Start for Women Foundation have partnered to bring you a powerful and uplifting on-line coaching program. Click here to learn more.

Monday, January 14, 2013

New Year New Career


Want 3 simple tips to help you make a faster and easier career change…?

As a Career Coach, I’m seeing that many professionals make the mistake of posting their resume on a job board, or handing their resume to a recruiter, and then just sitting back and waiting for the phone to ring. In today’s tough job market, you need to be much more strategic in making a career change. My clients have had great success including doubling their opportunities and cutting their search time in half by following my three simple job hunting rules…


1.     Think Up, Down and Sideways.

The biggest mistake job hunting professionals make is looking for a position with the exact same title they had in their last job. Instead, consider looking at smaller companies and going one-level up, as well as larger companies and going one-level down.

Since many companies don’t require you to have industry experience, only expertise in a specific job function, you can double your opportunities by applying for jobs in different industries.

For example, if you’ve been working in advertising agencies, then also include businesses that have in-house advertising, marketing, or communications departments. Or, if you’ve been in sales, finance, engineering, or administration in a certain industry (such as health care, high tech, or construction), start applying for those same jobs in other industries.

Also, it’s not mandatory that you meet 100-percent of the requirements in the job description. Attitude and confidence are also key factors! A good rule of thumb is to have at least 75-percent of the skills and experience required, and express in your cover letter and interviews that you’re a quick learner, flexible, and passionate about the position and the company.

2. Create a strategic job search plan.

You want to fish where the fish are, so find out where your potential employers by reading job boards(MarketingPower.com, CareerJournal.com, theLadders.com, etc.), as well as industry publications, business journals, and company websites. You’ll be able to learn which industries are hiring, which companies are hiring and what the hot jobs are!


•Company websites. Create a list of companies where you would like to work. Visit their website weekly for on-line job postings, and announcements for departments expanding.

•On-line job boards. Some job search sites are notorious for listing outdated jobs, or jobs with no contact information. Why waste your time?

Instead, make a list of job search sites that offer high quality jobs. Conduct a search on Google or Yahoo for the job role and the city you want (example: marketing director, Portland). Review all the sites listed on the top three or four pages, and bookmark only those sites that list promising job opportunities.

You’ll find that each site varies in the quality of positions listed (lower-level to senior-level, as well as salary ranges), plus the type of industries, or vertical sectors, listed. Some sites may also do a better job than others updating their lists, or publicizing openings in your city.

Focus your attention only on those sites. Once you’ve created a list of your top job search sites, make a commitment to review those sites weekly.

3. Work your NetWORK.

Make it a priority to get connected, and stay connected, to people who could hire you, or introduce you to others who could potentially hire you. Get re-connected with past employers, customers, and colleagues. Meet new contacts by attending industry conferences, trade shows, business networking events, and association meetings that target the industry (high tech, health care, etc.), or the job role (marketing, finance, management, etc.) you want. Try to attend a couple of events each week.

Finally, never give the impression that you’re hungry for a job. Instead, you want to be seen as someone who’s resourceful, knowledgeable, and has a wide network. Send out personalized notes and e-mails with links to reports, case studies, press releases, videos, and websites that you think may interest them. Invite them to business networking events, and introduce them to other movers and shakers. Influencers are drawn to those who are resourceful.

The goal is to create a pull relationship with your network so that they are drawn towards you (not running away from you!)

When you’re searching for a new job, remember to stay focused in what you want, stay positive, and believe in yourself. It takes persistence and patience – but you WILL find those companies who jump at the opportunity to hire you!!

Your Assignment…

Create your “job search strategy.”

Expand your career opportunities by researching job openings in various industries advertised on company websites and job boards (such as Monster.com and CareerBuilder.com). Read a variety of job descriptions to determine if you have the right mix of skills, experience and expertise. If you match at least 75% of the job requirements – then apply! (Nobody meets 100% of the job qualifications)

After you find a job you want to apply for, then customize your resume to meet the job description and ask your network for recommendations, referrals and job leads.

By following these three (3) strategies you’ll be well on your way to a new career!

Sherri Thomas is author of Career Smart - 5 Steps to a Powerful Personal Brand - on AMAZON's TOP 10 LIST for personal branding books. She is also founder of Career Coaching 360 which provides resume help, interviewing support, and personal career coaching packages to help professionals change careers quickly and easily.

Friday, January 11, 2013

A Winning Attitude Helps You Succeed


Make 2013 the year you look back on and say, “Wow, look at what I accomplished!” 
Huge numbers of people begin each New Year with resolutions to lose weight, earn more, get a promotion, eat healthier, exercise more, start a business, and the list goes on and on.  But it is so easy to fall back into old habits before the new ones have really formed.  Temptations are everywhere around us, and it is difficult to resist them when we are caught up in lives that demand so much of us to just get through some days.

You absolutely can make 2013 the year you look back on and say, “Wow, look at what I really did accomplish!”  Your first step is to begin to believe you really can accomplish your goals.  Instead of thinking of them as resolutions, which require willpower and determination, begin to think of what you want to achieve as the next step in your journey to the “you” you want to be, doing the work you want to do.  When you make that choice and decide to take action, you are on your way!  It’s easy in the very beginning to stick to your plan and begin to see results.  Then life always seems to throw obstacles in our path.  That’s when our attitude often stumbles, and we say to ourselves, “I guess I really can’t do this!”

 
Understand that it is not the obstacle or event that is getting in your way; it is your attitude towards the obstacle that makes the difference!   If you begin to envision yourself living in that new body, career, business and life, you will see opportunities come your way!  Begin to believe in the value of programming your attitude!   

Maintaining a positive attitude frequently means controlling the input you get.  Well-meaning friends or family say “Its’ impossible” or “why do you think you can do that”.  Don’t believe them!  In fact, don’t even listen to them!  Think about all the “impossible” things humans have accomplished.  The Wright brothers flew an airplane, astronauts walked on the moon, and doctors transplant hearts.  Belief always comes before accomplishment.  You must have total belief in your dream and your ability to do it.  You must develop the skills.  You must stop the negative input before it enters your ears or your heart and destroys your belief and with that, your dreams.

Is it easy?  Absolutely not!  Is it worth it?  Only YOU can decide!

What are you going to do today to move forward on your journey to a successful 2013?

Dolores Seright, CPC

The Shattering Barriers™ Expert