Wednesday, March 6, 2013

How Does Your Temperament Influence Your Relationships

A long time, the father of medicine Hippocrates developed the "Theory of the four temperaments" which consisted of analyzing behaviors that people had, and their influence in social groups and their relationships. According to this theory, there are four types of temperaments  present in the human being: melancholic, choleric, phlegmatic and sanguine. According to the study, we all present a few of the four temperaments, but each person has one temperament that stands out to others.

A person familiar with the characteristics and traits of their behavior, presents a self knowledge that benefits not only yourself, but also  the people around you. It becomes easier to deal with people close to us, if we know better our own temperament.

The more we understand our kind of temperament, the more we can learn to use it to produce positive effects on our lives. Let's learn a little about each of them:

Sanguine: are people who show happiness, energy and a love of people and crowds. They have the need to be the "center of attention", and are always surrounded by friends. It can lead to a lack of focus in  activities, due to performing many tasks simultaneously.  A job search for this group should include tasks that require attention and concentration such as preparing food, playing an instrument, or manual labor, as these can help focus attention for people with this temperament.

Melancholic: a person who has this temper, seeks perfection and is meticulous in everything that they do. They usually see life in the details, and for this reason tend to be very critical and observant. This is a human being that is reserved and introspective, who can appear quiet or moody to people who do not know them. Individuals with this temperament, generally have few friends, but are loyal to the few they have. A job search for this group includes work with a purpose, where they can freely express their ideas and opinions.

Choleric: People with this temperament have remarkable characteristics: leadership, decision-making, practicality and optimism. They tend to be independent in their way of being and living, with a lot of energy and daring in what they do, with an ability to lead people, with the intent of transforming something. In the professional environment,  this group appreciate giving orders rather than receiving them, and for this reason it can transmit to people: pride and self-sufficiency. In order to develop good relationships, it is suggested that this group practice team sports because they stimulate teamwork and discipline.

Phlegmatic: Individuals with this type of temperament, generally seem unconcerned with daily activities, when in fact they actually accumulate great concern within yourself. They are peaceful people, looking to stay away from trouble and strife.

In the workplace, they tend to be organized, confident and diplomatic. However, this individual does not usually get emotional easily, thus preferring silence and introspection in their relationships. Good activities for this group include, indoor activities such as painting and modeling.

We all inherit a temperament from our parents. It is the combination of congenital characteristics that consciously or unconsciously affect our way of being and living. Studying and learning more about our temperament, will give us more self-confidence and self-knowledge in our activities and relationships, thus contributing to our personal and professional growth. We need to diagnose our temperament, listing the positive parts to enhance them further, and we must know our weaknesses and limitations in order to seek improvements in our actions.
Daniela Silva is married, Brazilian, and currently resides in Sao Paulo, where she works in her home office with research and projects in education and the third sector.  Graduated in Pedagogy, has qualifications in: Pedagogy and school management business, and an MBA in Managing People.

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