Friday, September 28, 2012

Why It's So Hard Say "I Can't Afford It!"

Reposted from the Huffington Post

Why is it still so difficult to say those four little words?

That's the question journalist Veronia Dagher posed recently in the Wall Street Journal. After all, huge numbers of Americans are struggling financially at the moment; anyone having to cut back or do without has lots of company. Reuters broke the news last week that the second quarter of 2012 saw the most significant rise in household debt since 2008. Forbes reported that outstanding student loans together amounted to over $1 trillion in March 2012, and, according to the Washington Post, American consumers "are projected to finish 2012 with a net increase of $43.5 billion in credit card debt."

And yet, admitting that there's no room in your budget for that dinner or new outfit, or even a haircut or pedicure, sometimes feels so hard that you go ahead and spring for it anyway -- as those credit card debt numbers bear out.

The reason we can't just say "no," Carl Sword, a New York-based psychoanalyst told the Journal, is that the pressure to spend often comes from peers. Dagher wrote that "feelings of shame, embarrassment or a desire to avoid conflict are just some of the reasons folks won't say no."

Jezebel's Dodai Stewart suggested that women especially are pressured to spend on their appearances, clothes, and accessories, whether or not they have the means. Maintaining hair and nails, waxing, shaving, and other types of grooming can be expensive as well as time-consuming.

So, what would make it easier to stop spending outside your means? Sword suggested holding frank conversations with friends and family about the limits of your budget and also to beware purchasing too quickly, before you've had time to think it over. Another reason to get off those flash sale sites, right?

And it's best to avoid dishonesty, Brad Klontz, a Hawaii-based financial planner and financial psychologist told the Journal. Not wanting to reveal their financial struggles, people with limited means sometimes cancel frequently or make up excuses for declining pricey social invitations and end up alienating their friends in the process.

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